Hello boys and girls, I would like to present today’s guest post from one of the best writing-advice-givers out there, author-agent Donald Maass. By Donald Maass Author of The Breakout Novelist: Craft and Strategies for Career Fiction Writers Here are three things that glib, hasty or form declines from New York aren’t telling you.The solutions…
1 I did an online guest lecture/Q&A for the e-course “How to Build Your Author Platform” offered by Dan Blank of www.wegrowmedia.com. Much fun. One of the questions involved the question of what to blog about. The student knew the way to attract an audience is to go narrow and deep: choose a niche, write…
1 A few weeks ago, a woman named Marie Forleo surprised about eighteen other women and me with a boudoir photo session. We were all solo entrepreneurs or aspiring entrepreneurs gathered for a three day retreat in Santa Monica. You wouldn’t think that posing in lingerie (or nothing at all) has anything to do with…
In which this blogger ponders the matter of identifying your audience, the word “psychographic”, and the defining characteristics of the creative badass.
I’m a woman. I tend to apologize too much. Women tend to do that. We throw around “I’m sorry” like we do “please” and “thank you”; it’s a reflexive response, a form of courtesy, and other women know that. (Whereas a man will think that if you apologize for something, you really did fuck up in some way.)
Many women – not all – want to apologize just for taking up space. We think if we speak up, sprawl out, jump into the conversation, if we act eager and animated and passionate, we’ll come off as…obnoxious.
But in truth, it’s the reverse behavior – acting aloof, quiet, guarded — being in-your-head instead of in-the-moment – that people find much more difficult to connect with. When you’re onstage, people want you to be animated and eager and passionate. It wakes them up. It engages them. It takes them out of their heads and puts them right smack in the moment, and it’s in the here and now that we feel the most alive.
I was on the phone with online marketing genius (among other things) Marie Forleo and she told me that my site immediately needed two things: an opt-in box and a Big Banana. (I like to think of this as one of the [many] blogging mistakes I made so that you don’t have to. I put…
1 One of my favorite anecdotes concerns bestselling author Steven Pressfield. He was a struggling screenwriter who decided he would only work on projects that he deemed ‘commercial’. When that didn’t get him anywhere, he decided Fuck it (I’m paraphrasing) and wrote exactly what he wanted to write. Which of course is when his career…
live + work off your badass edge.
- is the enemy of creativity the culture of daily life?
- darling, it is time to be powerful.
- you are the power you don’t give away
- your second life starts when the world cracks you open
- at some point you learn that your passion is not your bliss. or your bitch.
- selfhood isn’t selfish
- sometimes happiness can only emerge from periods of unhappiness.
- you are your own damn permission slip
- how to be a hero/heroine: the power of story + the quest for true self
- Emma Watson + why the Artemis archetype makes for awesome heroines