I’m not surprised that the recent biography of Steve Jobs turned out to be controversial, revealing – as Malcolm Gladwell put it – “a man with a nasty edge.”
Apparently Jobs had a mean streak. He could be a bully. He played fast and loose with reality – otherwise known as his “reality distortion field” – and took credit for ideas not his own.
It’s possible that he was what Linda Martinez calls a high achieving narcissist. Or what Michael Maccoby refers to as a productive narcissist.
If so, he’s in great company. Maccoby identifies creative and cultural forces such as Picasso, Henry Ford, Richard Wagner, Coco Chanel, Winston Churchill, as ‘productive narcissists.’ click for more
I was sitting at an Italian restaurant with two male friends, whom I adore, when the conversation turned from my love life to the lack of female tech entrepreneurs and CEOs.
My friends – both of whom are founders and CEOs of tech companies – were quick to agree that women choose not to pursue that kind of existence. “They see the stress and the hours we work,” said one, “and they just don’t want it. Especially once they start thinking about having a family.”
“You can’t put in the kind of hours required of a CEO or a start-up,” said my other friend, “and be a good parent. You just can’t.”
Both men nodded sagely.
I found this ironic, since both of them were the fathers of toddlers. Were they declaring themselves to be bad parents?
Somehow I doubt it. click for more
1. Carving time from your regular, ‘productive’ life to pursue a hobby or project that you’re passionate about means that you increase your chances of being in flow.
Which I wrote about in this post here.
Long story short: flow is you in your element. It reinvigorates you. It wakes you up to new possibilities for yourself and increases your sense of well-being.
This is good for you.
It’s also good for the world, because click for more
If you feel guilty about taking time out from your life to pursue a personal creative project because you think you’re being selfish (when you should be earning money instead, or cleaning the house, or serving your partner and/or kids in some way, or just generally being, you know, productive) raise your hand.
But what if creativity isn’t something that should be looked on as an indulgence, an excess, or a special quality that a few lucky mysterious people are born with and the rest of us are not?
We tend to see creativity as something that belongs on the sidelines of life. People who live on the edges of society in order to make the creative life a way of life got tagged as ‘bohemians’. The rest of us suffered our practical routines so that we could make some practical money.
I respectfully suggest that your creative work needs to come in out of the cold and assume its rightful place closer to the fire. click for more
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