April, 2012

lessons from chernobyl


I had the chance to go to Chernobyl, so I took it.

When people found out about my destination, there came the inevitable jokes – because, you know, nothing is so hilarious as nuclear radioactivity. (Black humor, remember, is a valuable coping mechanism.) I was informed that a “young lady” like me would “find herself with a lovely glow” , that the two-headed cows were considered a delicacy. I retorted that I hoped to come back with a superpower.

I started thinking about death.

It would be that kind of trip.


I was thinking about a blog post entitled Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. Written by an Australian nurse named Bronnie Ware, the post hit a collective soul-nerve, went viral, and landed her a book deal. click here

Apr 30, 2012 · 14 Comments / ADD YOURS

the life-or-death pursuit of creative-badass joy (+ why we’re all entrepreneurs now)


When Jen Louden invited me to blog about creative joy, I couldn’t help thinking about how we have yet to put creativity — as a value, as a practice –at the center of our lives, our families, our culture.

We’re trained to be productive. We have to put food on the table. Who can afford the time and money to be creative, especially with all that daydreaming involved, that pointless wandering around? We’re coming out of an Industrial Age that trained us to be factory workers, sensible professionals, linear thinkers. Creativity had little to do with any of this. It was banished to the sidelines otherwise known as Bohemia, not exactly known for a flourishing economy.

But now, as we enter this post-consumer era where we differentiate ourselves not through our factories, but our ideas, the question has flipped upside over. As we step into The Creative Age, who can afford not to be creative? click here

Apr 20, 2012 · 9 Comments / ADD YOURS

creative badass epic post: how to figure out your purpose/passion/just what the hell it is you want

When you rock, the world pays attention. — Hugh MacLeod

Early in our relationship, when my boyfriend and I still considered ourselves frovers – a cross between friends and lovers, not boyfriend-girlfriend but more than friends with benefits (I was not a ‘Rules’ girl) – he asked me, “So what do you want to do with your life?”

I talked for a bit, and he was thoughtful.

“Is something wrong?” I said.

“I’m just impressed,” he said, “that you were able to answer the question. Most women can’t.”

I thought of this when I read this post, which asks the very reasonable question: How can you go after what you want when you have no idea what you want? You can’t know what you want if you’re not sure who you are, and since we’re all works-in-progress, I would say that even those of us who know what we want, might not always remember what we want, or find ourselves clinging to outdated notions of what we want, or wake up one morning to realize that we’ve wanted all the wrong things. So I think the question, much like the line of breath in meditation, is something you have to keep returning to: keep remembering to ask, and to listen for the answers. click here


Apr 15, 2012 · 21 Comments / ADD YOURS

Samantha Brick + the perils of pretty girl syndrome ( + Ashley Judd bitch-slaps the media)


When I read the “women hate me because I’m beautiful” article by Samantha Brick, I rolled my eyes. I couldn’t help it. Samantha seemed a victim of what I think of as Pretty Girl Syndrome, which involves a confusion of your identity with your appearance. (“People don’t like me/my looks, thus they must be jealous of me/my looks.”)

Samantha is also buying into one of the favorite stories that our culture likes to tell itself about women: that we’re vain frivolous creatures at each others’ throats as we compete for male attention. click for more

Apr 10, 2012 · 31 Comments / ADD YOURS

why the world needs more ambitious women ( + ambition is not a dirty word)


In January 2009, there was an article in the Harvard Business Review called “Women and the Vision Thing” comparing male and female leaders.

To the researchers’ admitted surprise, “as a group, women outshone men in most of the leadership dimensions measured. There was one exception, however, and it was a big one….”


Women scored lower on developing and communicating a vision.

A couple of years later, Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg kicked up controversy when she called upon women to close “the ambition gap” between women and men. Women need to be – and stay – more ambitious, she said, if they’re to belly up to the table of power.

You could argue: Why would women even want to? Why should the world care? And what do overpaid CEOs have to do with the rest of us? click here

Apr 6, 2012 · 28 Comments / ADD YOURS
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