March, 2013

how to blog like you mean to change the world

We shall not cease from exploration. And the end of all our exploring. Will be to arrive where we started. And know the place for the first time.
— T.S. Eliot


Transformation is a point in the journey, a shift in the paradigm, a change in the way you see yourself.

We construct ourselves according to the stories we tell ourselves ( and others) about our lives. What happens when you reinterpret those stories? Or help your reader do the same? click here


Mar 27, 2013 · 12 Comments / ADD YOURS

the real journey of a writer

The real journey of a writer – or any creative – isn’t to publication, rewards, acclaim, but to your own voice.

When you find your voice, you connect to yourself, and then through yourself to the world. Your work resonates. As Thoreau once wrote in his journal, “The whole is in each man.” (And each woman.)

I’ve always felt that your voice is twofold: not just how you write, but what you write about. They inform and shape each other. click here


Mar 25, 2013 · 6 Comments / ADD YOURS

the secret dharma of women


Sometimes you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t.

Women in my generation grew up with the message you can be anything you want to be….except when you can’t. That last part was beamed at us through images of successful women who are harried, lonely and miserable and successful women who realized they forgot to have families and successful women who are mocked in the media for their less-than-supermodel appearance and “castrating” nature.

A book came out with a title that said it all. Although the message was pro-women and pro-ambition, the title was AM-BITCH-OUS. (Later changed.) click here


Mar 23, 2013 · 15 Comments / ADD YOURS

18 principles for highly creative living

“Creativity is the greatest rebellion in existence.” — Osho

1. The purpose of education is no longer to fit yourself to a career, which might or might not exist (at least in its current form) by the time you are ready to enter it. The purpose of education is to give you the foundation to enable you to create your own path.

2. Study human nature. You understand others through understanding yourself; you can understand yourself through understanding others. Without that understanding, your art will probably suck.

3. Life doesn’t happen in sequential order (build career/find mates/have kids). The version you carry in your head of how your life should be was probably cobbled together from movies, TV, other forms of fantasy handed down by a culture that wants you to buy stuff. So junk it. Redefine success. Embrace the mess. There’s beauty in the imperfection. click here


Mar 14, 2013 · 40 Comments / ADD YOURS

how to be fearlessly creative

Successful people do not lead statistically sensible lives. — Srinivasan S Pillay


You know that myth about Pandora? The gods give her a box and tell her not to open it — which, when you think about it, is the one way of ensuring that she will.

So she unwittingly releases all the troubles of the world.

At the bottom of the box, though, is something else: hope.

And it’s still there when she closes the lid.

I used to think: oh, hope, big deal. It couldn’t have been an invisibility cloak or the ability to teleport or a genie who looks like Keanu Reeves? click here


Mar 11, 2013 · 16 Comments / ADD YOURS

Sheryl Sandberg, Amanda Palmer + the art of changing the game

Sheryl Sandberg’s book isn’t out yet, but already she’s the subject of backlash and her ‘lean in movement’ declared DOA. Apparently – or so the media story goes – Sandberg is so wealthy, successful, educated and powerful that a merely mortal woman can’t relate.

This, I can’t help feeling, is bullshit. (Oprah is rather successful, and yet still manages to connect with a female audience. Maybe you’ve heard of her.)

It’s also not true.

Sandberg’s TED talk went viral, and I know I’m not the only woman eager to inhale my pre-ordered copy of her book as soon as my Kindle downloads it. Women may be criticizing her for not being The Perfect Feminist (whatever that is), but criticism doesn’t qualify as rejection, and the idea that any female figure could speak for all women and represent all women would be like saying that all women are the same. click here


Mar 2, 2013 · 6 Comments / ADD YOURS
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