how to heal the feminine wound



I told a good friend of mine that I was kicking around the idea of a creatrix.

“A what?” she said.


“Like a dominatrix?”

“Yes,” I said, and nodded sagely. “Except totally different.”

My idea of a creatrix was this: a woman who maintains strong relationships with others while cultivating her natural gifts and pursuing mastery, for however long it takes her. She actively uses her gifts in service of herself, her loved ones, and the world. She is grounded, sensual, and comfortable in her body. She recognizes her birthright to pleasure and play. She believes in interdependence and interbeing: she is her own person while knowing that we are at least partly defined by our relationships. She may or may not have kids. Chances are she tried the conventional thing, or came close – the wedding, the ‘safe’ job or career, the house in the suburbs – and it didn’t work out. So now she lives in the country/on the beach/in a loft downtown/ in Thailand.

She is not afraid of power: standing up to it, speaking truth to it, or using it to advance her own agenda.

She is not afraid to have an agenda.

The other night, in a cozy and chattering Italian restaurant, my friend told us that she had just encountered the word again. She is taking an online course about female goddess archetypes, and one of those archetypes is The Creatrix.

“Yes,” I said, trying to sound all wise and knowing, as if I hadn’t just discovered this yesterday. “Creatrix is another word for Goddess.”

I abruptly realized that discussing this idea of the creatrix is, for me, another way of discussing the feminine. A Creatrix can be a man or a woman. It is not the gender but what that person is in service of:

Wild, raw, creative energy.

Soul energy.

According to Thomas Moore, “….the spirit is what is divine in us, and the soul is what is human.”

Spirit, or however you want to think of it, is some abstract, impersonal state of cosmic perfection that exists “up there”.

Soul is what we are tasked to work with – and work out – down here. Soul is highly personal, individual, messy, entangled, embodied, complicated, shot through with blood and darkness. If you ascend to find Spirit, you descend to find Soul, plunging into the murky world of your own private underground.

If Spirit makes us all One, your Soul makes you…more you.

Soul, according to Jung, is a feminine concept.

Spirit is masculine.

We need them both — soul and spirit, ascent and descent –in order to be psychologically whole. But as Sera Beak points out

“…spirit is the most popular and public ‘face’ of spirituality. More often than not, soul has been relegated to the moldy basements of the clean and bright McMansions of mainstream spirituality.”

We have lost the art of psychological descent, of “going there”: down through the difficult emotions, the darker elements of our personalities. The purpose of descent is to work through our shit, integrate and rise into a wiser (and happier) state of being. This is also known as the heroine’s journey, based on the great, ancient myth of Inanna.

It is the female initiation into higher consciousness.

But in a culture where emotion is tagged as dangerous – slipping very quickly into crazy, hysterical, irrational – we seek as much distance between ourselves and our feelings as we can. We find our favorite ways to numb out. We stomp the dark stuff down with a relentless focus on positive thinking. Stories about ancient female rites give way to Disney tales about happily ever after, more seasons of The Bachelor. This, the culture tells us, is what female life is supposed to be. We know this is wrong – this is nowhere near enough for souls as mighty and hungry as us – but maybe can’t put our finger on why, or what we’re supposed to want instead.

Spirit is perfection.

Soul is creativity.

Perfection, like spirit, is impersonal. The task is to meet or exceed certain standards, to fit into the box.

Creativity lives against the box, or outside of the box, or doesn’t even realize there is a box. It serves as the expression of your unique, individual soul. It is your soulprint on the world. We are what we make. When we create, the process also creates us; it shows us, and brings into being, aspects of ourselves that we didn’t know existed.

“People will do anything to avoid facing their souls,” Jung noted, concluding that ‘soul loss’ is the great wound of our time.

We wonder who we are. We go off looking for ourselves (if we can afford it) in a therapist’s office, in exotic places, in relationships with inappropriate people, in designer handbags and sleek shiny sportscars and other goods that can’t satisfy for long. We regard ourselves as “not creative” (since what is creativity but your soul making itself manifest?).

It’s interesting that Julia Cameron based her famous Artist’s Way books and workshops partly on the 12-step philosophy of AA, referring to the participants as “recovering artists”: seeking not creativity but the restoration of it. The healing.

Perhaps ‘soul loss’ is not a cause but the main symptom of another kind of wound, what Sue Monk Kidd terms the feminine wound. This is the devaluation and degradation of the feminine: regarded throughout history as the defect to the masculine norm, the wrong to the masculine right.

I believe that creativity – the act of making meaning out of things which would appear to have none – can be both therapeutic and healing.

I believe that the feminine wound slashes so deeply through Western culture that many of us take certain attitudes and behaviors as “just the way things are”, whether it’s women “opting out” of the workforce, or a teenage girl calling another girl a slut and a whore, or cutting herself, or starving herself, or driving herself past burnout as she tries to be everything to everybody, or a boy shutting down his emotional life and his ability to empathize so he won’t get called a [insert slang for female genitalia] and beaten up after school.

I see a creatrix as someone who uses his or her creativity to take the feminine wound and transform it. To take us from pain to power. To release the shame that keeps so many of us trapped and fearful. To give voice to authentic feminine experience. To give the feminine a voice — every bit as bold and loud and vibrant as it wants or needs to be.

A creatrix can look past her own personal drama and understand how her story hooks into the bigger picture, the global system. She understands that when you change yourself, you inspire others to change, and the system has no choice but to change itself around you.

The Creatrix has many faces.

Perhaps one of them is yours.

Feb 2, 2014

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Justine, you are an inspiring Feminine voice. Thank you for speaking to my soul.


Hmm how do you write out people’s souls? I’m loving this new word, the way it gives the the feminine permission to be fierce and tender and powerful like you say; – a creatix. Totally loving it.


I posted on FB too, about how I use creatrix in my business, as my title. At the time I wrote that, I had just read what you posted from this post. Now I’ve read the whole post. And love it even more.

This bit: “I see a creatrix as someone who uses his or her creativity to take the feminine wound and transform it. To take us from pain to power. To release the shame that keeps so many of us trapped and fearful. To give voice to authentic feminine experience. To give the feminine a voice — every bit as bold and loud and vibrant as it wants or needs to be.”

Magical. Exactly what I want to be in the world.


Soul loss IS the great wound of our time. These are such wonderfully profound realizations. If I have one mission it is to learn to swim in the deep end and then teach others how NOT to be afraid to join me.


This is why I really enjoyed the book “Women Who Run With The Wolves,” by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. It was given to me as a hand-me-down, with a written note from each woman who passed it on to another. I passed it on 6 years ago, to a wonderful, exotically beautiful friend of mine who was about to get married and frustrated with the shift of power between her and her fiance. Estes re-tells the original, pagan versions of all the Disney happily-ever-after stories. I will never think of Cinderella the same way. She didn’t get a man at the end the original story. She saved herself by listening to her intuition and holding onto the fire in her soul.


“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own souls. They will practice Indian yoga and all its exercises, observe a strict regimen of diet, learn theosophy by heart, or mechanically repeat mystic text from the literature of the whole world – all because they cannot get on with themselves and have not slightest faith that anything useful could ever come out of their own souls. Thus the soul has gradually been turned into a Nazareth from which nothing good can come. Therefore let us fetch it from the four corners of the earth – the more far-fetched and bizarre it is the better!”
Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1961) Swiss psychiatrist, psychoanalytist, founder of a new school of analytical depth psychology, Psychology and Alchemy – Collected Works of C. G. Jung, Volume 12, S. 99, 1944, Routledge, London, 2nd edition, 1968


Goddammit is this post brilliant. I mean really, I’ve re-read it and just want to punch things because of how much it resonates with me. (For whatever reason when I get really jazzed about something I just end up cursing more and getting violently happy)

Also, super great timing on this post being on Feb. 2nd. Feb 1/2 in the Catholic tradition is St. Brigid’s day. St. Brigid being an appropriation/syncretized of a much older Irish Goddess of the same name. Brighid is a Creatrix goddess – a master of her craft of both poetic eloquence and blacksmithing. She’s also a master of healing waters, yet also associated with the fire and light of the sun. She is above and below. She cares deeply for others, but is arrested in herself. How about that for fucking groundhog day?


YES! another shout-out for “Women Who Run With The Wolves,” – great book, transformative read. Justine thank you for an inspiring and mind-expanding essay — your POV is both freshly new and filled with ancient wisdom – a much-needed voice.


Brilliant and deep. Sharing with my CPs.


Love this so so so much. You’ve so eloquently put to words this concept of being beautifully, powerfully feminine as well as pinpointing that feeling that bothers so many – that thing that causes people to say “it’s just the way things are”. This is a message that needs to be shared…so many do not know it even exists.


Yeeeees! Looooove this post. I write about a similar perspective in “The Modern Heroine’s Journey of Consciousness.” We are made to ebb and flow, ascend and descend, rise and dive and rise again. The more we love this part of our strength, the more we love ourselves. Thanks for these gorgeous words, Justine.


Balm to my wounded heart. I am not alone.


@Otiti You are so very very not alone. In the last couple of weeks or so, when I run into women who read my blog, this is the post they bring up into conversation. :)


YES – this is so on the nose. thank you. I’ve just spent 4 days tramping in the wilderness with 5 wonderful woman and what you speak of was absolutely a part of my experience during this time. Thank you


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